1. You are not a man so don’t try to be! This also extends to how you dress at work, keeping it feminine but appropriate. Outside of work this means not trying to be ‘one of the boys’.
2. Work is NOT a popularity contest. Great bosses and colleagues are respected not liked. Women frequently value being liked and worry what others will think if they say or do certain things. You have been employed in a professional capacity so put the insecurities aside and above all else act like a ‘insert your job title here’.
3. An extension to point 2: don’t ever put being liked above being smart. The ‘boys’ might like you for it but the bosses won’t promote you for it. For those of you with tertiary qualifications you are more than likely employed for your brains. Use them!
4. Women often focus too much on building strong relationships with their clients and not enough time looking to understand the business their clients operate in and honing their strategic skills and business insight. When a client moves and there isn’t a chemistry fit with the new person you will leave your company (and your own position at the company) exposed.
5. Women are far to tough on themselves. Most women develop and mature professionally quicker than men and have more EQ (Emotional Intelligence) so tend to dominate many of the sectors of male dominated industries that are relationship focuses (ie Advertising). However when it comes to career advancement they are often shy. Men tend to think they are at least half a role of job title ahead of themselves and will demand it. Women are the complete opposite and almost talk themselves out of a promotion and place themselves half a role or title behind where they usually are performing.
6. Not knowing how to say no. Don’t fall into this trap: ‘It’s the end of the discussion when a man says no, but the beginning of a negotiation when a woman says it’. Trust yourself and be firm.
7. Not keeping healthy, defined boundaries between work and leisure.
8. Not delegating! Naturally good multi-taskers women often struggle to delegate work.
9. Don’t sleep with any man at work, unless you plan on marrying him.
10. Women not supporting women. To quote Madeleine Albright “there is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.”